You have created a bias based on the people you know, and you cannot extrapolate that narrow set of people to the 8billion other people in the world.
It can be subtle, but if you are making excuses, stop and reflect on why you’re picking up after a grown man? Talk of children or commitment brings panic to his eyes. And then you immediately see panic and a desire to flee.They revert to their adolescent ways out of discomfort with intimacy and to protect them from getting too close to you.In fact, the more adolescent your man, the more “motherly” you may be in his presence.When you try to bring something serious to his attention, see if you are the one backing out of the conversation by apologizing about something you did wrong.Do you find your original point never gets addressed and you wind up talking about what you did wrong that triggered his poor behavior? His interests and friendships carry a middle-school vibe.